"There is so much that every one of us can do, and so much to be gained by doing it—not the least of which is a sense of your own agency."

"Experimentation and play can open up space. Instead of making a plan, think of one small step you can take and then see what happens. […] Notice what patch of ground or sky you can see from this new position, and take another step."

https://everythingchanges.us/blog/keep-moving/

@cwebber Exactly.
We should always ask of technology, not just what does it do, but who does do it FOR?

Here the elimination of human agency, I fear, is what is sought after.

Efficiency is the pitch they give, to make these systems appear in a favourable light.

However, I think soon we will discover sinister people willing pay much more for AI systems that ”do not talk back” than they would ever pay an employee.
#tech #ai #agency

@EllenInEdmonton I'd very much rather have no romance than poorly executed romance or romance that doesn't add anything to the story. Lee Bo Young's #KDrama #Agency was all business, no romance, and I scored it a 9. Sometimes I think not having to force a romance arc liberates the writer(s), and Negotiation sounds like one I'll enjoy a lot.

I will save the deconstruction of the western relationship norms as a product of the insecure patriarchy and a tool of oppression for another essay. Suffice it to say western relationship norms are binding, usually heavy with expectations and rules, limiting, and at their base line: unhealthy. A lot of the default rules and restrictions come from the mononormative patriarchal back drop in which we exist, and are in place so the ones in power don't have to do any self work or growth to "keep" their spouse. (The use of mononormative ownership language is an intentional jab)

But we don't have to be bound by those rules. We have braved ego death, we are free intentional beings, we can co-create our connections with partners however we want. We are brilliant motes of star fire encountering each other in a space of possibility.

Agency, growth, respect. These are the foundations of an adult relationship, a true connection. These are only possible if the other person is in a healthy relationship with all the parts of themself first. If the other person is not in touch with their will or higher self they can't form boundaries or ask for needs bc they don't know what they want out of life.

I don't think it is healthy to be in a relationship with a person who is not self-assured, an unintentional being, someone who has not experienced ego death, doesn't live intentionally, or at the minimum isn't self-aware.

Living intentionally is hard work, it takes energy to focus on the Now, to resist the automatic behaviors and limiting thoughts that are socialized or habituated into us.

An intentional person in relationships doesn't worry about the other person leaving or loving someone else. An intentional person is greatful and present for all moments no matter how wonderful or awful; All moments have something to teach us.