SURVIVING NARCISSISM

But if your brother's(or any relation's) presence consistently:

- Undermines your self-esteem with belittlement, manipulation, or lies,
- Violates your boundaries and disregards your needs and feelings,
- Causes you stress through guilt trips, drama, or emotional abuse, and
- Endangers your physical safety through threats, violence, or neglect

HOW TO SURVIVE NARCISSISM:

1. Learn About Narcissistic Behavior to Better Understand Your Brother’s/Mother's Actions

Reading up on narcissistic personality disorder can be like cracking the code to their manipulation.
When I did this, I learned how my mom’s need for control, lack of empathy, and tendency to enable drama are textbook characteristics, not personal attacks.

It isn’t a free pass for her actions, but it shifted my perspective.

2. Keep Your Mindset Healthy and Strong

Throughout my own journey, I learned that a strong #mindset was the key to not only surviving but thriving.

It began with practicing self-compassion and self-worth, counteracting the negative beliefs instilled by my brother's/parent’s constant belittling.

3. Don’t Take His Actions Personally

Your brother’s behavior is a reflection of his own issues and insecurities, not a commentary on your worth or character.

Understand that his actions are driven by his narcissistic tendencies, and not a judgment of your value.

4. Don’t Bother Arguing With Him, Save Your Energy

Engaging in arguments with a narcissistic brother can be draining and counterproductive. They often thrive on conflict and manipulation.

Save your energy by refusing to get caught up in fruitless disputes. Instead, calmly assert your boundaries, disengage when necessary, and focus on maintaining your emotional well-being.

When you avoid unnecessary arguments, you retain your energy and avoid being manipulated into confrontations that are unlikely to lead to any resolution or understanding.

5. Don’t Let Them Put You Down, Tune Out the Toxic Noises

Dealing with a narcissistic family member means contending with their insatiable need for admiration and strong feelings of entitlement.

Recognize their attempts to put you down and choose not to dance to that toxic beat. Your worth isn’t defined by their distorted views.

Recognize that his behavior is a reflection of his issues, and your efforts are better spent on self-care and emotional well-being.

6. Is cutting ties with your narcissistic brother ever a recommended course of action?

Going no contact with a narcissistic brother can be a last resort if the relationship is severely toxic and detrimental to your mental health. It’s a highly personal decision and not one to be taken lightly.

But how do you know when enough is enough?

For me, the time came when the gaslighting became a constant, drowning out any semblance of #peace.

It was a pivotal moment, a realization that my well-being deserved more than the incessant toxicity.

Crafting my exit plan became not just a strategy but a lifeline. It was an empowering decision to break free from the emotional shackles and reclaim control over my narrative

7. Be Prepared for Negative Reactions From Your Father or Others

When I cut off my narcissistic mother, she threw tantrums and guilt trips and even tried to manipulate others to turn against me.

After all, they said, “Blood is thicker than water, right?” Well, sometimes, the chosen family is the strongest bond.

Family dynamics can be messy, and not everyone will understand your decision.

Prepare for some raised eyebrows, awkward conversations, and maybe a few flying feathers (metaphorically, of course).

But stay strong, remember your “why,” and surround yourself with people who celebrate your boundaries.

8. Cultivate Financial, Emotional, and Social Independence From Your Mother/Brother or any Toxic Relation

Breaking free from a narcissistic father/mother/brother etc often means severing the ties that bind you, not just emotionally but also in other aspects.

You don’t need his/her approval or admiration to feel worthy.

So, find ways to stop being dependent on your father/mother/toxic relation for anything, be it emotionally, financially, or socially.

He/she will just use these to manipulate you and control every aspect of your life.

9. When Should You Consider Cutting Ties From Your Narcissist Family?

Consider cutting ties with your narcissistic family when efforts to maintain a relationship prove consistently futile and the toll of narcissistic abuse jeopardizes your mental health.
Sometimes, their love is conditional and hinges on toxic dynamics. That’s when cutting ties becomes a valid choice for finding peace and prioritizing your well-being.

10. See a therapist and also learn from someone who has experienced & survived first-hand this sort of heinous torment so you can live aware and save yourself from trauma, suffering, physical violence, emotional health liquidation, mental health ruination, hypertension, strokes, destruction and even death!

#Trauma #Abuse #SelfAbsorption #SelfCentredness #Selfishness #Jealousy #Envy #Hate #Bigotry #Psychopathy #Narcissism #Narcissists #Sadism #Egoism #Selfishness #Spitefulness #Toxicity #Wars

#Empathy #Compassion #Kindness #Love #Peace
#GenuineConnection #Awareness #Freedom #Children #Parenting #Fatherhood #Motherhood #Family #Marriages #Growth #Change #Life #World

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CHARACTERISTICS OF NARCISSISTS

These individuals are characterised by an insatiable need for admiration, a lack of empathy, and a grandiose sense of self-importance.

They would rather impress a stranger than take care of you. They're interested in that validation, attention and adoration from those around them, so they would rather impress a stranger than care for their own family.

They are excessively critical of others, smear campaign masters and prone to condemning other people for the wrong reasons.

They misinterpret your actions and emotions due to lack of #EmotionalIntelligence making it difficult for them to weigh their actions and distinguish between hurtful words or actions.

They only have superficial conversations.

They constantly belittle, demean, slander and put others down to feel superior.

They engage in abusive behaviour(domestic abuse, sexual abuse, child abuse, emotional abuse, mental abuse and so on).

They constantly harass or bully you.

They ostracize you and team up against you.

They are always lying, guilting or gaming you to get their way - manipulating you to get to control or take advantage of you and others to get what they want.

They are drawn to black magic and the occult.

They dont know their behaviour may cause pain to others;
They only know what they want.

They do you dirty and laugh at your pain. No decency, No civility. Like a demon, no compassion and no mercy.

They exhibit wild mood and behaviour swings, and sessions of rage.

Narcissists love criticizing others but they cant handle constructive criticism talkless of destructive criticism, they will lash out at you or even get violent. Talk about having zero self awareness.

To a narcissist, respect is only for them.

The competitiveness of narcissists! Always having to one up you. They are truly mentally and emotionally unstable people.

They are mostly drug or alcohol addicts.

They are two-faced.

They cheat and are not loyal.

They treat people poorly.

They lack regards for others.

You understand and care about their emotions but they dont.

There's always miscommunication, they refuse to listen or communicate effectively.

They dont do favours for you; every action is a transaction. So any favour they've done for you, at some point, they use it against you.

The narcissist is definitely not going to listen to what you are feeling. Narcissists only relate with you based on what they can get from you and when they have succeeded, they move unto their next victim.

They dont care about other people's feelings, needs or concerns, yet expect the opposite from them.

They lack genuine empathy or genuine interest to care about you.

They are only there for you when they want something from you, and when they dont want something from you, they disappear on you.

They cant love you, they can only use you.

They love expending more energy in inducing shame to make you feel worthless than less energy to lift you.

They are very jealous and deeply insecure.

They seek out people who are kind yet vulnerable.

They appear to be very social.

They are addicted to anything that is superficial.

They spill your secrets.

They would leave you behind if something better comes along.

THEY CAN NEVER CHANGE

#Trauma #Abuse #SelfAbsorption #SelfCentredness #Selfishness #Jealousy #Envy #Hate #Bigotry #Psychopathy #Narcissism #Narcissists #Sadism #Egoism #Selfishness #Spitefulness #Toxicity #Wars

#Empathy #Compassion #Kindness #Love #Peace
#GenuineConnection #Awareness #Freedom #Children #Parenting #Fatherhood #Motherhood #Family #Marriages #Growth #Change #Life #World